Online Workshop
For Women 40+ in a Long-Term Relationship Who Want to Feel Loved & Wanted Again
In just 3 hours, learn how to communicate so he stops defending himself, comes closer and gives you what you want.
Tuesday 15th September · 6-9pm NZ · 4-7pm Sydney · 2-5pm Perth
- What You'll Learn...
- You'll leave with the exact words for the conversation you've been wanting to have, said in a way he can actually hear, so he moves toward you instead of defending himself.
- The 4 recovery strategies, if he starts defending, goes blank, says "here we go again", or removes himself.
- A 3-step formula to share your feelings in a way that he can hear you, come closer and understand you on a deeper level so you feel loved and cared for.
- This isn't a webinar and you won't be watching me talk for three hours. I’ll share the formulas and then we’ll practise and troubleshoot.
- Most of the night is about you asking me questions, talking in small breakout rooms with other women, finding your own words and practising them so you’re ready to have that conversation with your partner.
- Your camera can stay off the whole time, and you can pass on anything. Nothing you say leaves the room.
- This Is For You If...
- You still care about him, but feel lonely in a relationship.
- You want to be treated in a way that feels nourishing and loving, and you don't know how to ask for that without him becoming defensive.
- You've stopped bringing it up because it never goes well. Or you have to keep on asking to get anything out of him.
- Sometimes you might doubt your relationship and it scares you. What if he can never give you what you need?
- Sometimes you feel sad and hopeless, and wonder what changed, why don't you feel close anymore... You might even wonder 'Does he still love me? Is he still attracted to me?'
Is It Him? Is It You?
Maybe right now communication with your partner feels difficult…
You bring it up. He shuts down, or he defends himself, or he says “can we not do this now.” You feel him going away, so you push a bit harder, because you can feel him leaving the room even though he’s still sitting there.
Then you’re the one who’s crying, or furious, or saying “forget it, it doesn’t matter” and you want to give up.
And then you don’t mention it again for another three months.
Some days it’s clearly him. He’s shut down, he won’t meet you halfway.
Other days you’re awake at 2am deciding it’s you. Asking for too much, not attractive enough…
It’s neither.
You’re stuck in a negative communication pattern. One person reaches, the other pulls back, and the more you reach the further he goes.
You’re not nagging, you’re reaching.
He isn’t cold either. He pulls back because he’s decided he’s already failed you.
So it isn’t him and it isn’t you, it’s the thing the two of you do together. And that can change, without him going first.
Picture this...
- Saying the thing you've been swallowing for years, and watching him lean in instead of becoming defensive.
- Being touched the way you want to be touched, because you found the words for it instead of hoping he'd work it out.
- Feeling understood by the person who's meant to know you best.
- Never having that same argument again because you found the right words.
- Knowing it was never you. You're not difficult, you're not too much, and nothing about you is broken.
Register today for only $27
Learn how to communicate, so he stops defending himself, comes closer and gives you what you want
15th september 2026, 6PM NZT OR 4PM SYDNEY
3-hour online workshop
- What You'll Get
- Understand how to change the negative communication cycle
- 3-step formula to share your needs & feelings without him shutting down
- The 4 recovery strategies in case he defends or shuts down
- All your communication questions answered by a relationship therapist
- A safe space to practise with women on the same path
loving Relationships make us happy
Kind words from Clients
“This was such a safe space."
~ Maria
“A beautiful, safe space."
~ Simone
“Safe space to be vulnerable."
~ Chris
"This time he's heard."
I’ve felt isolated and unable to cope and overwhelmed by my son’s energy. It’s through Tarisha’s course that I’ve been able to reconnect far more deeply with my husband and ask for his support. This time he’s heard.
- Sam Rock Cooper, Bristol, UK, www.samrockcooper.com
"The change in my marriage is most pleasurable!"
Yes – real change IS possible! I’m so grateful to be on this discovery journey with Tarisha. I feel I’m given a big toolbox with life skills which I will use the rest of my life.
The change in my marriage is most pleasurable...
This is more important than going abroad or renovating the house or buying new clothes.
- Madelene, Sweden
"I feel I can be myself around my husband."
I felt so drained in my relationship, everything seemed like a struggle and I just couldn’t find time for myself.
After working with Tarisha the relationship with my husband has changed dramatically, I want to spend time with with him, I feel I can be myself around him and I enjoy our time together. Life is just way more pleasurable now.
- Barbara, New Zealand
Frequently Asked Questions
No. Plenty of women do this without saying anything, and let him find out through how the conversation goes instead.
Register anyway and you’ll get the recording. But you’ll get the most out of the workshop if you join us live, because the breakout rooms is where you’ll practise, and you can’t do those on a replay. You’ll also be able to ask me any questions about communication and your particular circumstances.
Camera off is completely welcome, and you only share what you feel comfortable with.
If you feel a bit shy in a group, know that this is a very safe space and the gentle support of other women will relax and empower you.
You can email me at tarisha@sexualempowermentforwomen.com
The workshop is happening on 15th of September 6 – 9 pm NZT or 4 -7 pm Sydney.
I know the power of this work and fully stand for it. If you’re not fully satisfied after the workshop, I will gladly refund you. You do need to attend the workshop to get the refund.
You’ll share as much as you choose to. You can always pass. And the rule in every breakout is that the other woman witnesses, she doesn’t fix, advise, or comment.
Yes, though it’s built for partnered women. If you’re on your own, you’ll leave with the skill and the language, which is worth having before the next one.
Meet Tarisha
I'm trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFCT), which means I can help you name the negative communication cycle you're caught in. More importantly, I help you change it, so you feel like a team again, safe, secure and loved.
My passion is to work with women because we have so much power in changing negative relational dynamics. With a couple of postgraduate degrees in counselling and psychotherapy, I've had the privilege of guiding hundreds of incredible women on their journey towards rediscovering their desires, learning how to become an invitation for love and affection, and feeling whole.
The result for them? A heart-melting and fulfilling love life.
Trainings I've completed:
- Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples and individuals
- Master's in Counselling from Massey University
- Graduate Diploma in Psychotherapy from Auckland University of Technology
- Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy
- Biodynamic Breathwork practitioner
- Professional training in Mindful Somatic Approaches to Trauma
- Certified Woman-Centred Coach
- Zenergy Global facilitation trainings
- Attachment Mastery training with Dr Helen Pooler, USA
- Gottman Marital Therapy
- Health Coach certified by American Association of Drugless Practitioners
Learn how to communicate
so he stops defending himself, comes closer and gives you what you want
15th september 2026, 6PM NZT OR 4PM SYDNEY
3-hour online workshop
- What You'll Get
- Understand how to change the negative communication cycle
- 3-step formula to share your needs & feelings without him shutting down
- The 4 recovery strategies in case he defends or shuts down
- All your communication questions answered by a relationship therapist
- A safe space to practise with women on the same path