Have you ever secretly wondered, “Do I actually enjoy sex?”
Or do you wonder ‘why don’t I want to have sex with my partner’?
Maybe you go along with it for your partner’s happiness or because you think you should.
But instead of feeling delicious, it’s rushed, dry, or even painful.
You’re not alone.
And let me tell you, there’s nothing wrong with you.
Sex has been shaped by a male-centric script.
Think about it—the films, porn, even societal expectations—they all paint a picture where sex is fast, spontaneous, and somehow “perfect” for everyone.
The man’s anatomy and arousal are front and centre, but for women, it’s a totally different story. 
Let’s get anatomical for a moment. 
Women have as much if not more erogenous tissue as men, but it only opens up to those willing to go on a treasure hunt.
All this glorious tissue needs time to fill with blood, get juicy, and feel ready.
Research shows women need 20 to 30 minutes of sensual touch to prepare for penetrative sex 
.
Meanwhile, men?
A few seconds, and they’re raring to go.
This isn’t a flaw—it’s biology.
Yet, we’re expected to keep up with the male body’s pace.
No wonder sex can feel robotic 
or even hurt 
.
No wonder you ask yourself ‘why don’t I want to have sex’.
The system isn’t broken; it’s just misaligned with how our bodies thrive. It’s not that you don’t want to have sex or have low sexual desire.
It’s that you don’t want to have ‘that’ kind of sex.
Here’s where things get exciting—what if we flipped the script?
What if, instead of rushing to penetration, the focus was on building pleasure in your body first?
Imagine this:
A slow, tantalising massage, sensual music 
playing in the background, soft lighting 
, and delicious teasing that sends shivers down your spine.
Mmmm… doesn’t that sound a little more appealing than the typical rip-clothes-off-and-go?
Doesn’t this increase your sexual desire?
When you take time to awaken your body, your sexual desire increases.
Instead of something to tick off the list, it becomes an experience to savour 
.
And you start wondering ‘why didn’t I want to have sex before’?
Don’t get me wrong—quick sex can be thrilling.
But relying on that style doesn’t honour your body’s natural rhythm.
It’s like skipping the foreplay in a symphony 
—exciting, but missing the depth.
And let’s be honest:
If every sexual encounter leaves you feeling like it’s not quite about you, why would you want more of it? Of course you lose your female sexual desire.
What would the world look like if every woman received blissful attention the way she wants it before penetration?
Or 20 minutes of yoni massage before penetration?
I’ll tell you—it would be a world where women feel seen, heard, and deeply loved.
Where female sexual desire goes through the roof.
Where relationships bloom with emotional and physical intimacy.
So light the candles.
Turn on that playlist .
Let your body become the musical sensual instrument it is meant to be.
I totally believe that true gender equality will happen when women will want to have sex as much as men do…
When female sexual desire is cherished, ignited and savoured.
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